Your wedding vows are your chance to declare your love and make a commitment to your significant other. They’re even more powerful when you decide to write them yourself. Every word counts, so you need to give ample consideration to every single sentence.
Begin with the Declaration of Love
This is not your chance to launch into a long speech. Keep things simple and keep things profound. Here’s the basic rundown of the first part of your wedding vows.
- Begin with a simple sentence about who that person is to you. What do they mean?
- Choose a couple of traits that make them the most special person in the world.
- End it with a declaration of love.
To help you get an idea of what this means, we’re going to give you a little example below.
Amber, you are the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. You make me smile every single day and you are caring, dependable, and reliable. I have never been more in love with anyone in my life.
Make the Promises
Some people get so caught up in declaring their love that they forget the true meaning of the wedding vow. It’s a chance to vow something TO the other person. It’s about what you will do for your partner.
There are multiple ways you can do this. These are two of the top ideas for what to include in your promises.
- How will you show your love on a daily basis?
- How will you demonstrate your love through language?
Once you figure this out, you need to add some things to do with your partner. This can be a promise to create a peaceful family or to respect and encourage your dreams.
Now you’ve told your partner what you will do with them, make a basic promise to be there during the bad times as well as the good. Make sure you include something to do with time. Anything like ‘forever’ and ‘eternity’ works particularly well here.
Writing Tips for Your Wedding Vows
It’s always a good idea to begin this as soon as humanly possible. Give yourself as much time as possible in which to get this done. This will allow you time to go over multiple drafts.
Rehearse in Front of a Mirror
It’s unwise to go into your wedding blind. Practice your vows in front of the mirror so you can work out all those little kinks. Sometimes what looks good on paper doesn’t sound as spectacular when said aloud.
Use a Helper
Consider bringing along the best man to give you some pointers. Get a second pair of eyes to give you some feedback.
Traditional Vows Alternative
If you still want to use traditional wedding vows, you can. But make an impression by adding a personal touch throughout. That way you can please the conservatives in your family, whist also making your mark.
Positioning the Vows
You don’t want to have a scrap of paper held in front of you throughout. Strategically position your vows behind a bouquet or on the palm of your hand. Only if nerves are getting the better of you should you refer to them. And people will understand!
Use this guide, but don’t act like this guide has to be followed to the letter. The beauty of wedding vows is it’s your opportunity to say exactly what you think. If you want to try something new, by all means do it. This guide has been kept as open-ended as possible to give you lots of flexibility.
If you know more tips to write wedding vows, please let us know.